- Is he PUNISHING them? He certainly has the power as second in command of Egypt to do just that. And that is what the brothers assume before they even know he is Joseph. Rueben says, “Now we must give an accounting for his blood” (Gen 42:22). If Joseph really is being vindictive here, he really isn’t very good at it. He keeps breaking down into tears in the middle of his plot! (See Gen 42:22, 43:30, 45:2, 45:14-15).
- Is he TESTING them? That is Joseph’s explanation to the brothers, “And this is how you will be tested…” (Gen 42:15). Perhaps Joseph is using this process to see what kind of men his brothers have become. After all, they weren’t such good men they last time he saw them as the slave traders were carrying him away. Maybe he wants to see, while he is undercover, what kind of people his brothers have grown into over the years.
Joseph isn’t being cold and calculated in his response here. He doesn’t know exactly what to do. He is torn between love and justice, and that is why he’s emotional and keeps breaking out in tears. Joseph’s scheme is simply to give himself enough time and space so that love can win out in the end! And that is exactly what happens.
Maybe we need to remember this story they next time we must respond to a spouse who is treating us unjustly or a boss who is being a jerk or a friend who has been insensitive. We can’t always say the right thing at the right moment. In fact, sometimes when we say anything at all in the middle of a stressful situation, it is guaranteed that it will be the wrong thing! Sometimes the very best thing that we can do is act graciously while we give ourselves enough space for grace to win out




